tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602723793220432831.post4033385792551924839..comments2023-05-30T05:00:52.832-06:00Comments on Fun While It Lasts: Frustration, Heartbreak, Love, DisappointmentOld Man Chttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02832526697062815856noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602723793220432831.post-11383858760436760212010-08-29T11:42:09.832-06:002010-08-29T11:42:09.832-06:00Thank you Sarah. That meant a lot. I will always c...Thank you Sarah. That meant a lot. I will always cherish our friendship, my little Ollie...Old Man Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02832526697062815856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602723793220432831.post-31872373417226007822010-08-29T10:29:52.996-06:002010-08-29T10:29:52.996-06:00OK, this is gonna be a long one, so, sorry!....
F...OK, this is gonna be a long one, so, sorry!....<br /><br />Firstly, I think you are being way harsh on yourself. He never gives us more than we can handle, remember. Feels like it when those big trials come along, I know. He knows what He is doing up there!<br />He has blessed you with those 2 beautiful boys, yes, but equally importantly, He blessed them with you as their Daddy. Always remember that.<br /><br />I keep thinking about my experiences as a child growing up in a single parent household, and trying to use my experiences, and how it feels later on, to help you, and I hope it does....<br /><br />I remember having no time whatsoever for my Father, because I hated what he was doing to my Mum, and also hated that he tried to use us to get at her, with the secrets, and stuff he knew we weren't allowed to do that he tried to have us do, and the times he put our safety at risk. Didn't work with me, I'd never do what he asked anyway... Always came home and told Mum. You'd have thought he'd have learned to be honest about stuff, but, nope. Anyway, I digress... <br />Sounds like your 2 are already sharing the things that are happening with you. Thats great. Keep talking to them, finding out how their day was. its important.<br />Joseph is already showing worryingly similar signs to myself :0 He's refusing to sleep anywhere but in his own bed. Gotta tell ya, think yourself lucky, I wouldn't sleep anywhere but with my arms and legs wrapped around Mum. Bet she loved that ;) <br /><br />The church will be important to you in terms of guiding them in years to come. Primary, Young Mens, laying down that bedrock for them, and building them into young men you will be proud of. <br /><br />As for what the boys need. Really, all they need is you, fit, healthy, and backing them up all the way in every way that matters.<br /><br />Finally, when you're feeling low I want you to look at your Facebook page. You are loved by many, many people. Hell, I remembered enough about you to look you up all these years later. Thats some impact you had, right there! And I'm guessing I'm not alone, honorary brother from another mother!<br />Anyway. thats enough for now. <br />Love ya, praying for ya.<br />Anything I can help with. just shout. And I really mean that<br />SxSarah Waddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114576059027840814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602723793220432831.post-40499419540894290962010-08-29T01:09:15.271-06:002010-08-29T01:09:15.271-06:00As I think of the task ahead I must admit I'm ...As I think of the task ahead I must admit I'm afraid I won't be up to the challenge. I thought I had a partner in this. One with a few issues, but one who had chosen to love and revere the Gospel and who wanted to raise our sons up to the Lord. I worry that I won't be good enough to outweigh the bad (let alone rid myself of the bad in me). <br /><br />I think of the influence my mother had in my life (for good and not so good) and I worry for the boys. You are right though that teaching correct principles will be my best line of defense. <br /><br />How horrible it feels to hope my wife's negative choices don't come across as happy, good examples of how to live one's life. Experience tells me she won't be happy, but that experience comes from one who has always felt the prick of conscience when even small sins have been allowed to stand. One thing I am learning is an even greater understanding of just how much my entire existence relies on the Lord and my trust in and obedience to Him. I only hope I can rise to the challenge and provide what my boys need.Old Man Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02832526697062815856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602723793220432831.post-17530130969277107922010-08-29T00:48:25.815-06:002010-08-29T00:48:25.815-06:00>they will need look no further than her for an...>they will need look no further than her for another argument in the world's favor.<br /><br />I don't see it as an argument in the world's favor. Think of it this way: Is a street bum an argument in favor of the success in life brought about by insanity, crime, or drug addiction?<br /><br />Teach your boys correct principles, make sure they understand what actions lead to what results, and tell them the truth, and they'll realize that what they are seeing is a warning about the results of prioritizing worldly standards and personal urges over integrity, covenants, and God. In general, they'll be able to differentiate between truth and deceit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602723793220432831.post-5057949452162550392010-08-28T23:14:45.499-06:002010-08-28T23:14:45.499-06:00Thank you. According to my wife she's doing so...Thank you. According to my wife she's doing so much better now that <i>everyone</i> can see it. All I see is a darkened countenance that I barely recognize as the woman I married. It was like that last year when I found out about the affair. She had an evil contempt in her callousness that was disturbing, and that demeanor is back with a vengeance. <br /><br />I'm at a complete loss as to how she can't see it and I worry for our kids having to be exposed to it. As they grow older, how do I teach them about chastity, honor and integrity when their mother has chosen to have none. How do I say, "This is what God requires", knowing that they'll see their mother has no respect for those things. When the world scoffs at these 'old fashioned' morals, they will need look no further than her for another argument in the world's favor. To me, that is the worst betrayal of all.Old Man Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02832526697062815856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602723793220432831.post-61122857296911634742010-08-27T00:05:33.222-06:002010-08-27T00:05:33.222-06:00>I always thought a repentant heart meant you&#...>I always thought a repentant heart meant you'd at least stop what you were up to and start looking for a way to fix it.<br /><br />It does. You might not be confident that you won't falter in the future, but repentance requires the full commitment to never committing the sin again. It means throwing the whole sin away, not just the most problematic or visible aspects. It means taking that one foot out of Babylon and putting both firmly in the center of Zion. It means no compromise. It means no pet sins that we fool ourselves into thinking we can't get along without. It means growing up and doing what has to be done, regardless of how we feel.<br /><br />And if we falter, we do it all over again, and we keep doing it until we beat it completely and are free.<br /><br />>troublesome<br /><br />Lying, or any kind of deceit, is always troublesome. It prevents repentance and it prevents spiritual as well as emotional healing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com